Naysayers are all around us. Sometimes, they’re even the people we care about most.
Rhonda & Jacob
Recently, I walked in on a conversation between Rhonda and her friend Jacob. Rhonda is interested in starting a business in the Baltimore area. As I walked in, Jacob was telling her about all the pitfalls and downsides of owning a business.
By the way Jacob spoke, you might have thought he was an expert entrepreneur or use to run a business of some sort. And, you would be wrong in that assumption. Jacob was and still is an employee with zero experience in running his own business.
After hearing this for a few minutes I had to jump in. I am, what you would call, an entrepreneur. Currently, I run two businesses, I’ve been self-employed since 2012 (5 years at the time of this post), and I started my first business when I was 13 years old.
I know a lot about starting a business and what it takes to succeed at it. The only thing Jacob was doing is deterring Rhonda from ever moving forward and getting started. Unfortunately, this sort of thing happens all the time.
Jacob Is a Naysayer
Although he may not know it or mean to be, Jacob is a naysayer. He is an individual who only sees the negative side or is overly pessimistic about an opportunity.
Just from the sound of the word you may think all these people are bad, but that’s not the case. Some naysayers actually love you to a fault. Here are a few types of naysayers you may have in your life.
- Family. People who love you can be the worst naysayers. They don’t do it on purpose, they do it because they care and want to protect you.
- Friends. Some of our friends fight a double-sided war. They want you to do well but they don’t want you to leave them. This can stunt your potential growth and future success.
- Those Who Don’t. These are the lazy, the scared, and the timid among us. Some of these people may even be our friends. Their attitudes prevent them from ever trying anything outside of the box and they have an excuse for why you shouldn’t either.
- The Jealous & Envious. Some people want to see you do good, but never better than them. These are the type to tell you not to do something, then go do it themselves. Or, they purposefully work to keep you one level below them (i.e. bad managers, bad supervisors, and fake friends).
Naysayers are all around us and they add to the obstacles in our way as we work to unleash our greatness. They aren’t all bad people. Sometimes they’re the ones who love us most.
As you work to get better everyday, keep an eye out for those who may not have your best interest in mind.
A great book about naysayers and other obstacles in the way of your dreams is “The Dream Giver” by Bruce Wilkinson, check it out.
Tell us about a specific moment in your life where naysayers interfered with your dreams or opportunities? Comment below.
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